Monthly Archives: August 2022

Seasons in Marriage- Part 1 – Podcast Episode 5

Just like in nature, every marriage experiences “Seasons.” In this podcast episode, we uncover what the Spring and Summer seasons typically look like in a marriage and tips for navigating these seasons and keeping your marriage strong and healthy!

You can find our podcasts on YouTube, Spotify, Apple, and Google Podcasts every Monday.

Bible verses listed in order throughout the video:

Ecclesiastes 3:1

Proverbs 16:3

2 Timothy 1:7

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Trusting God When It’s Difficult

Scripture tells us that when God calls us to do something hard, we must learn to trust Him. Trust that He is leading & protecting us. Trust that He has a good plan for our life and that He knows best.

Yet often, at the first sign of trouble, we want to give up rather than endure what is necessary to accomplish His will. Or, if we’ve been in a season of waiting for a long time for our circumstances to change, we may finally feel that we’ve finally hit our breaking point.

This is especially true when it comes to difficult seasons in our marriage. Marriage isn’t always easy. It’s plain HARD sometimes! Yet, God calls us to continue to follow His good plan for us.  If we allow ourselves to be ruled by our emotions, we will eventually find ourselves in a place of desolation.

If we want the abundant life that God promises us within our marriage, we must choose to endure through difficult seasons, trusting God through every frustrating & painful step. No matter how long it takes.

Never forget God’s faithfulness! Our hope is found in Christ alone.

Deuteronomy 31:6

So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the Lord your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you.

Hebrews 10:36

Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God’s will. Then you will receive all that he has promised.

James 1:12

God blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. Afterward they will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him

Walking by Faith, Not by Sight

There are times in marriage where so much has happened in a season of struggle that it seems total restoration is impossible. It is true that if we walk only by sight, we can only do what we SEE as possible.

But, if we walk by faith, we have the ability to DO the impossible! Walking by faith means to rely on God’s promises as part of our daily living & trusting His plan for our lives. Trusting that he hears us & sees us and is working in the background for our good.

If today you are asking God to help you restore brokenness within your marriage, put your full trust in Him. You can confidently approach God with your desire for restoration within your marriage. He hears your prayers. He wants to fulfill the desires of your heart that align with His perfect will.

Prayer: Heavenly Father, thank You for Your perfect will at work in our lives and in our marriage. Help us to trust You fully to restore the brokenness within our marriage. Restore our unity and strengthen us as a couple to love You first, so that we can love one another better. Amen.

Studying Your Spouse – Podcast Episode 4

How well do your know your spouse? Are you looking for greater wisdom, emotional intimacy and healthier conflict within your marriage? Join us for a discussion about what it means to study your spouse and discover the benefits of truly knowing your spouse.

Studying your spouse is one of the GREATEST marriage strengthening tools!

Bible Verses: Proverbs 4:7, Proverbs 15:14 , James 5:16, Colossians 3:19, James 1:5

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Allowing Grace to Fill the Gaps

We once heard a marriage mentor tell us to ”let grace fill the gaps in your marriage.” This mindset has been so helpful in our own marriage.

Marriage consists of two imperfect, at times broken, individuals. We get something perfected, or so we think, like forgiveness within 30 minutes or tolerance to ongoing health challenges. Or, we may commit to staying on the same page with disciplining our children or what our shared finances should look like. Honestly, it could be any topic.

But, none of us are perfect. Only Jesus is. Our external circumstances can shake us to our core & even make us feel like we can’t persevere any longer.

But God..

His mercies & grace are new each day! We fall down, but we get right back up!

Often times, we must allow grace to fill the gap. Maybe we aren’t on the same page, maybe we haven’t reached a compromise yet, but if we allow grace to stand in the places where we are lacking understanding or patience, we allow God to do His work in bringing us back together.

I often think about how much God has to put up with me; my disobedience and my lack of faith & trust. Yet, thankfully, he is merciful with me. If Jesus is our example, let’s follow that example!

Lamentations 3:22-23 NLT

22 The faithful love of the Lord never ends!
    His mercies never cease.
23 Great is his faithfulness;
    his mercies begin afresh each morning.

Grace wins every time!

Chemistry or Commitment

Proverbs 16:3 
Commit your works to the Lord and your plans will be established. 

It takes more than chemistry to keep your marriage strong and healthy; it takes commitment to God first and then to each other.

While chemistry may have brought the two of you together, that alone will not sustain a healthy and strong marriage. Like all marriages, there will come a time of adversity and conflict within your marriage. Our attraction to one another will be tested.

We must ensure that our marriage is rooted in our personal commitment to God first. We can do this by forming healthy daily habits, such as spending time in prayer and in quiet conversation with the Lord. I find myself asking Him to show me the areas in which I need strengthening as a spouse. Then, I ask for His strength to help me change my ways, which He is always faithful to do. Without His help, it is impossible for me to have lasting character change that will benefit my marriage. I am convinced that staying unwaveringly committed to my spouse is only possible through my commitment to Christ.

We must also ensure than we have both committed our marriage to God. We can do this by inviting the Lord into every area of our marriage, with Him at the center. This means we can go to Him in times of adversity and seek His wise counsel, as opposed to seeking someone or something outside of the marriage. My spouse and I pray together several times throughout the day to keep God actively in our marriage and we have learned not to make any big decisions without bringing them before the Lord first in prayer.

It is our commitment to God, both personally and in our marriages, that gives us the ability to stay committed to another imperfect human until death. This is how we find the strength to forgive and offer grace to one another. Being committed is also how we endure hard times of trial and testing.

Being a Husband of Encouragement


How often do you give your wife encouragement? Is it only when something big is upon her or do you make it a daily habit?

I have been married to my wife for over two decades and I can honestly admit that for the first decade of our marriage, I was lacking as an encourager. I can practically count the times on my hands when I gave her encouragement. For instance, when she wanted to go back to college to get her Master’s Degree, I offered plenty of encouragement, but if I am being honest, I would say that encouragement was for my own benefit. The more she worked on her career, the better off I would be financially.  I know this makes me sound very shallow and worldly, but this is about as transparent as I can be.

But God….

When I accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior over a decade ago, He began to transform my heart and my thoughts. He grabbed a hold of me and went to work! See, I was deeply in love with my wife. Yet, I did not understand that many of the goals and ideas that I brought into our marriage were rooted in anything but Christ.  Yes, I was a great provider; I went to work each day and helped with raising our children and with errands. Yet, when it came down to offering compassion and encouragement to my wife, I often failed.  We were both busy in our careers and raising our sons and we were lucky to keep our heads above water.  We allowed the busyness of life to take away our focus on each other and our marriage.  My mindset was that as long as my wife and I had “teamwork” in our marriage, then we had a good enough marriage.  Boy did meeting Jesus personally open my eyes to how much we both were fixated on the wrong things.  And He told me to drop everything and follow Him. What? How?

Well, you see, Jesus has taught me a thing or two about encouragement. In scripture, we read how Jesus encouraged His disciples. Jesus even told His disciples to love sinners (Matthew 9:10-11). That’s right, a sinner just like me. We are all sinners. If Jesus can forgive our sins and encourage us to follow Him, then why can’t we encourage our wife when she is down and on hard times?

Sometimes I tend to believe that my wife should think identically to me. Yes, she often has the same issues as I do and we often have the same routine, but let me assure you, she does not think identically to me. Her needs are different. She is also called to a different role than I am, biblically. Thus, she will often see things differently than I. She won’t always agree with what I agree with.  You see,  sometimes, my wife is fragile, yet I want her to be as tough as I am. This is not what God wants, though. God created man in Genesis 1:26, but man was not yet complete. Man needed a help-mate, essentially an encourager, so we see in Genesis 2:21 that God created woman. Now, man was complete. He had his perfect help-mate. I know how thankful I am that God has given me my perfect complement, my encourager. She is a gracious gift from God. I am thankful for her, even though I wasn’t always the greatest encourager to her. This is how Jesus has transformed me. No longer do I take my wife for granted or view her as an inconvenience. I love to encourage my wife as often as I can to be a godly woman. I can say the simplest thing to her and her face will beam with joy.

So, men, I encourage you to start encouraging your wives as much as possible. Let the words you say to your wife be for building her up (Ephesians 4:29). Let her know that you really see her. Set aside all of your own pride, stubbornness and anger and openly encourage your wife. I promise you that even a small amount of positive encouragement towards your wife will not only bring her joy, but joy to you too.

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